About Me

What I’ve learned through education, providing therapy, and walking along my own journey of self-discovery, healing, and growth is that we’re all imperfect and fallible humans. We all have experienced pain and it is our nervous system’s response to our experiences and our interpretation and stories we tell ourselves about that experience that drives our perceptions of the world around us. Our nervous systems are highly intelligent and are doing exactly what they are designed to do in every situation, to make sense of the world around us, prepare us and protect us (through fight, flight, freeze, fawn responses). However, when our nervous system is responding as if the world is an unsafe place while we are not in danger it is highly likely that we are operating from past pain, our unconscious programming, or upsetting early childhood experiences.

When we are able to live fully in the present moment, we can cultivate an awareness of the automatic negative thoughts, feelings, and behaviours that are running in the background, unconsciously from the past, instead of the present. We must make the unconscious programs and patterns conscious in our present awareness in order to shift them to a more healthy and balanced way of being. From this place of conscious, present awareness we have a choice whether we will repeat the old patterns or do something slightly different to move forward and toward the person we want to be and to feel the way we want to feel.

We have the ability to take control of our lives, to love ourselves regardless of our flaws, mistakes, and shortcomings and find compassion for ourselves and others. It is only through self-love, self-examination, self-acceptance, self-compassion, human connection, and forgiveness for ourselves and others, that we are able to heal and grow. It is a daily practice that is absolutely doable and we are the only ones who can do it! The benefits of this work is that we are able to feel more calm more of the time as we connect with ourselves and others from a more present, authentic, and compassionate place.